“I must admit, all jokes aside, I find some men beautiful, some girls handsome, and some children wise.”
Ben Sollee is a musical underdog. In 2007, NPR listed him as one of the “Top Ten Unknown Artists of the Year.” The aforementioned lyric is from his song, “It’s Not Impossible,” in which he challenges the social expectations of boys. His most recent album, Half Made Man (2012), is an explorative body of work that uncovers the man’s process of discovery.
Ben’s music annotates pushing cultural boundaries, specifically in America. He attempts to level the playing field by singing about boys being able to openly cry. What say you? Gender is a social category. It’s about how you personally identify yourself, while sex, in a not-too-distant way, talks about your reproductive anatomy. Undoubtedly, gender and sex directly effect each other, but they stand separate.
Gender and sex are too often confused. People who are biologically male—but identify with more effeminate gender traits—are scrutinized. That scrutiny is present because of expected gender roles. The notion that men are more likely to have casual hookups simply because they are men, is just another cultural blunder. We expect men to be irrational and irresponsible, condone their behavior even, but our society has a problem with their erratically erotic choices.